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Monday, June 1, 2009

5 Keys to Attracting the Right Man or Woman to Date

There are several practical steps we can take in order to attract the right kind of man or woman to date.

Seek the Lord in Prayer
Yeah, I know we heard this all before, but really, God will hear your prayers, and provide for all of your needs (Phil. 4:19). I know some single Christians are frustrated because they have been praying for a mate, and nothing tangible has been happening. But please don’t give up hope for that special man or woman to date.
The Scriptures state that at just the right time God sent forth His son to save us. (Gal. 4:4). So, if God the Father gave us Jesus, will he not graciously give us all things? (Romans 8:32). The answer to that question is a resounding YES! In the meantime, wait on God, and learn to have contentment as a single person.

Love (Accept) Yourself
Jesus told us to love others as we love ourselves. The bottom line is we can’t love others the way God wants (including your our date or mate) until we love ourselves.
Loving yourself has little to do with self-esteem, but all to do with “God-esteem.” What do I mean by that? It means looking at yourself the way God sees you. He says you were wonderfully and fearfully made (Psalms 139), and He thought well of enough of you to die for your sins while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8).
So here’s my question for you? Can you love and accept yourself as God loves and accepts you, warts and all? If you do, this is a very attractive quality to the opposite sex. If you can’t accept yourself, potential dates will most likely be turned off as well.

Be the Real You
This means letting others see the real you, not the man or woman you think they want you to be. The reason you should just be yourself is that you want your date to want you just for being you. That way there’s no pressure to keep putting on an act. By the way, keep this in mind if you are writing an online dating profile. Remember, changing yourself to meet your date’s or mate’s criteria is not only stressful and dishonest, but it’s also a surefire way to doom a relationship.

Set Level Expectations
It’s good to make a list (with the help of family and friends who know you best) of the qualities you are looking for in a man or woman date, but just be realistic. I know many Christian singles who have remained single and lonely because they could never find anyone “good enough” for them. Do you get the picture?

Don’t Be Afraid of Rejection and Failure
The God you and I serve calls us to take faith-filled risks. Don’t allow fears to rule over your life. Trust Him to guide you in this area of your life, because you will never meet the right man or woman to date unless you take a chance by becoming vulnerable. Remember that most people, whether they are on a blind date or in a courtship relationship, have faced rejection at one time or another. The key is to trust God with your fears.


MyOwnThINg said...

1sttttttttttt communication as well is important...hmmmm just a thought!!

Kémi Penélopê said...

Happy New Month, Lady A!!!

"May God give you eyes to see beauty only the heart can understand..."

Thanks for the almost daily nuggets...there's nothing like Prayer about any decision you have to make in life. Once you can pray about it, then God gives you the strength to go about it.
Bless you, Lady A for sharing.

Lady A said...

@MyOwnThing, Yahhh, you are 1st! Lol. You are so right. Communicate and how we communicate are important keys too. Thanks for reading!
@Kemi, *sniff,sniff* Why you got me teary eye over here?! That was wonderful of you. May God continue for you to see what and how He sees. Allow Him to continue to prepare you for your destiny and His best. Don't despise small beginings. And may God bless you beyond measure.

Anonymous said...

another nice post.

know what you want; if you dont know what you want, how will you know when you have found it. Some go through life believing God knws the person and the right man or woman will fall into their laps. There's nothing wrong with this thot, but in my opinion, God will grant you the desires of your heart if you pray according to his will

Anonymous said...

I truly love myself but my biggest fall is me not being able to accept rejection well at all..

I try God knows!