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Tuesday, March 24, 2009


1. It becomes a one-sided relationship with one person giving and never receiving anything in

2. Too controlling—Your movements become too controlled by your mate.

3. Physical or mental abuse is involved.

4. One party keeps too much secrecy in the relationship.

5. You constantly have to deal with the drama associated with his or her cheating.

6. He or she pressures you to do things that go against your standards of morality.

7. He or she shows overt disrespect by outwardly flirting and seductively dressing.

8. You’re constantly arguing over who should pay whenever you go out on a date.

9. He or she claims to be saved, but does not like for you to go to church.

10. The individual you’re dating never keeps the same job or place of residence for any length of

11. Drastic spiritual differences.

12. Different goals in life that will hinder each other’s ability to be grow.

13. Unable to build or maintain a strong friendship—personality conflicts.

14. Lack of respect for your partner, or your partner lacks respect for you.

15. Large amounts of fighting without any resolution to the problems—bad communication.

16. You do not like your partner’s family.

17. Unhealthy relationship between your partner and his family. (He’s a mama’s boy; or he
disrespects his mother)

18. She divulges too much to the family concerning the relationship.

19. If your partner is not marriage-oriented; the woman is not wife-material; or the man is not
capable of being a provider and a covering for his family.

20.Your partner is selfish and/or self-centered—he always places his needs, desires, and goals
before yours.

***Do a Google search on his/her name and see what pops up!!!***


1. A job

2. The ability to communicate and be intellectually stimulating

3. Stable residence

4. The ability to take care of himself

5. A strong spiritual foundation


1. A strong spiritual foundation

2. Intelligence

3. Compassion

4. Independence

5. Goals/Ambition

Relationship Thursday With Bishop Bloomer IMPACT Conference 2006
©2006 George G. Bloomer


Olufunke said...

NIce list, very interesting

Remi, United Kingdom said...

Thought provoking...

My last relationship, I had no 1, that was enough to call it quits!!! lol...

Thanks for sharing

Much love

Lady A said...

@Olu, thanks, I too found it very interesting. I wish I could have had this list b4 some of my friends got married.
@Remi, you go girl! Kudos to you...I wish others who experience no.1 to leave...you know your worth and value!!!

JustDB said...

Hmmm... Great list good food for thoughts for dudes who want to do it right too... Thanks for sharing...

Anonymous said...

Just found your blog! Hmm.. Interesting!!!

i like your thoughts.. and they make a lot of SENSE!

Lady A said...
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Lady A said...

Hopefully both male and female would want to do better. Np sharing:o}
I'm so glad it makes sense. I want everyone to understand and get it!

LG said...

thanks for d tips dear'
howz Oga???

StandTall-The Activist said...

There are lots of sense in this. You captured it all. I will just like to add that if you are looking for a wife material, you should be ready to be a husband material in the sense that both fo you are ready to commit, love, respect and care for each other. And of course both of you should be involved in the fiancial aspect of the relationship. This shd not be one sided as well

Lady A said...

@LG...life is good...what's new on your end?
@Stand Tall, wow, now that's what I'm talking about! So true...simple, yet deep.

StandTall-The Activist said...

You are welcome.